Rewrite the Story Your Childhood Still Tells About Love.
A gentle, science-and-soul journey in a confidential 12-person circle.
For healers, coaches & creatives around the globe.
Today's Prompt:
Describe a recent relationship conflict that felt familiar. What emotions came up for you?
When my partner didn't respond to my text for hours, I immediately felt abandoned and anxious. I started overthinking everything, wondering if they were upset with me or losing interest.
I noticed myself getting increasingly anxious and then eventually shutting down emotionally to protect myself. When they finally called, I was cold and distant even though I had been desperate to talk earlier.
This pattern feels so familiar - I crave connection but then push people away when I feel vulnerable. It reminds me of how I felt as a child when my mom would be emotionally unavailable.
Pattern Detected
Anxious-Avoidant Loop
You move between anxious attachment (craving connection) and avoidant behavior (emotional withdrawal) when feeling vulnerable.
Childhood Connection
This echoes the feelings you described from childhood, when your mom was emotionally unavailable and you were left craving closeness.
Action Plan
The next time you notice yourself slipping into withdrawal:
- Pause & Sense – Sit or stand with feet flat, eyes soft.
- Vagus Breath – Inhale through the nose 4 counts, exhale with a gentle sigh 8 counts. Feel the belly drop.
- Pendulation Scan – Like Peter Levine's practice, gently move attention between a tense area (e.g., chest) and a neutral or pleasant area (e.g., soles of the feet). Let the contrast melt the charge.
- Reach & Release – Extend arms outward as if seeking connection, then bring hands to heart. Notice the shift from seeking to self‑soothing.
Repeat for 2–3 minutes until your body registers more ease (slower pulse, softer shoulders) before re‑engaging with your partner.
Analyzing patterns...
Why You Still Feel Stuck—Even After All the Work.
- 1
Repeat break-up or burnout cycles.
- 2
Intellectually understand wounds but feel no shift.
- 3
Nervous-system locked in fight / flight / fawn.
Trigger
Old Script
Same Outcome
Inner
Harmony
Mirror
Journaling
Dream
Mapping
Constellation
Theatre
Sacred
Circle
Mirror Journaling™
AI + trauma-aware prompts = a private pattern mirror.
Dream Mapping
Decode the secret wisdom of your unconscious mind.
Constellation Theatre
Live systemic and psychodrama work to shift scripts.
Sacred Circle
Safety, Accountability, and Empathy for Breakthroughs.
Choose Your Path
Select the program that best fits your needs and schedule. Both paths start on May 19, 2025.
Course Only: InnerHarmony Self-Paced Program
Program Length:
4 weeks
Start Date:
May 19
Your Commitment:
1 hour of guided journaling per week
Weekly video lessons (30-45 min)
- Live Onboarding Session
May 19th
5:00 PM CET (Berlin/Paris) / 8:00AM PST (Los Angeles)
Ideal if you prefer a self-guided journey while staying connected to the community.
Course Only: InnerHarmony Self-Paced Program
Program Length:
4 weeks
Start Date:
May 19
Your Commitment:
1 hour of guided journaling per week (AI-assisted reflection exercises)
Weekly video lessons (30-45 min) to build insights and awareness
- Live Onboarding Session
May 19th
5:00 PM CET (Berlin/Paris) / 8:00AM PST (Los Angeles)
Ideal if you prefer a self-guided journey while staying connected to the community.
Group Coaching: InnerHarmony Deep Dive
Program Length:
4 weeks
Start Date:
May 19
Your Commitment:
Everything included in the course plus:
1.5-hour weekly live session (group coaching)
- •May 21st
- •May 28th
- •June 4th
- •June 11th
5:00 PM CET (Berlin/Paris) / 8:00AM PST (Los Angeles)
Ideal if you're ready to go into deep transformation of relational patterns within a supportive, interactive group.
Quick-Win Tools
Four-Week Journey
Awareness
See the Script
Theme
What is a life script? How to dream journal?
App Focus
Mirror Journaling Prompts, Mother/Father Assessments, Dream Journaling
Release
Feel & let it go
Theme
Science of nervous system memory, Grounding techniques
App Focus
Relationship Timeline (Family and Romantic), Soul Affirmations
Transform
Rewrite with Safety
Theme
Creating Inner Safety, Discovering Soul's Purpose
App Focus
Generate Life Script, Dream Mapping
Integrate
Live the New Story
Theme
New Narrative Creation, Aligning with Soul's Desires
App Focus
Soul Spark Assessment, Love Script Turnaround, Final Action Plan
Awareness
See the Script
Theme
What is a life script? How to dream journal?
App Focus
Mirror Journaling Prompts, Mother/Father Assessments, Dream Journaling
Release
Feel & let it go
Theme
Science of nervous system memory, Grounding techniques
App Focus
Relationship Timeline (Family and Romantic), Soul Affirmations
Transform
Rewrite with Safety
Theme
Creating Inner Safety, Discovering Soul's Purpose
App Focus
Generate Life Script, Dream Mapping
Integrate
Live the New Story
Theme
New Narrative Creation, Aligning with Soul's Desires
App Focus
Soul Spark Assessment, Love Script Turnaround, Final Action Plan
Real Feedback And Transformation From Participants
Rated 9.25/10 for "would recommend to a friend or loved one" by our Beta Users
"It brought more clarity regarding life scripts, fears and patterns that I was not fully aware of. It helped me understand how and why I have certain mechanisms of coping with my own personal process today."
"I was looking for clarity inside of me, encouragement to follow my inner voice and honesty to confront things that stand in my way. The program gave me that even if I didn't know that I needed it at this point."
"The dream analysis was very insightful. It revealed symbols I haven't recognized myself before."
"The assessments were very accurate and aligned with what I already observed within myself. It added value to my journey because they underlined patterns that I noticed but swept under the rug most of the times."
"I needed concrete action steps and ways to move forward, and the App suggested exactly that. I just need now to apply them irl, step by step!"
"I wanted to gain more clarity and awareness, and I did. I also gained more compassion for myself and the people I shared the program with. It was beautiful to see how everyones inner work is somehow intertwined with what every single person brings to the table."
About Leland
After almost a decade of studying trauma patterns and relationship dynamics, I created InnerHarmony to bridge the gap between intellectual understanding and real embodied transformation. I've guided retreats and workshops for many people through this gentle yet powerful process.
Before this work, I spent years as a product manager in education. That background now fuels InnerHarmony's tech: the program's AI‑powered Mirror Journaling app delivers personalized analysis and support so you aren't alone in your inner journey.
I believe no one is broken; we've just forgotten our inherent worth and true capacity for joy. I'm here to guide your journey to remember.
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Participation Guarantee + Pricing
Participation Guarantee
If you show up for the first 2 weeks and do the journaling exercises and are unsatisfied, you'll receive a full refund. No questions asked.
Self-Paced Program
One-time payment
- Self-paced video lessons
- AI-assisted journaling
- One live onboarding session
Group Coaching
Early-circle honor fee
- Everything in self-paced program
- Weekly 90-min live group sessions
- Personalized feedback & guidance